This Is How Your Marriage Ends by Matthew Fray

This Is How Your Marriage Ends

A Hopeful Approach to Saving Relationships

Matthew Fray, Rob Shapiro, HarperOne

HarperCollins · Print & ebook · April 18, 2023

A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives.

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Who it’s for
Clear, faith-adjacent relationship advice with a hopeful, work-at-it rhythm.
Genres
Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships, Divorce & Separation, Couples & Family Therapy
Published
HarperCollins, April 18, 2023

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A thoughtful, down-to-earth, contemporary guide to help partners identify and address relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives. Good people can be bad at relationships. One night during his divorce, after one too many vodkas and a call with a phone-in-therapist who told him to “journal his feelings,” Matthew Fray started a blog.

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He needed to figure out how his ex-wife went from the eighteen-year-old college freshman who adored him to the angry woman who thought he was an asshole and left him. As he pieced together the story of his marriage and its end, Matthew began to realize a hard truth: even though he was a decent guy, he was a bad husband. As he shared raw, uncomfortable, and darkly humorous first-person stories about the lessons he’d learned from his failed marriage, a peculiar thing happened. Matthew started to gain a following. In January 2016 a post he wrote—“She Divorced Me Because I left the Dishes by the Sink”—went viral and was read over four million times. Filtered through the lens of his own surprising, life-changing experience and his years counseling couples, This Is How Your Marriage Ends exposes the root problem of so many relationships that go wrong. We simply haven’t been taught any of the necessary skills, Matthew explains. In fact, it is sometimes the assumption that we are acting on good intentions that causes us to alienate our partners and foment mistrust. With the humorous, entertaining, and counterintuitive approach of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, and the practical insights of The 5 Love Languages, This is How Your Marriage Ends helps readers identify relationship-killing behavior patterns in their own lives, and offers solutions to break free from the cycles of dysfunction and destruction. It is must-read for every partner no matter what stage–beginning, middle, or even end—of your relationship.

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Clear, faith-adjacent relationship advice with a hopeful, work-at-it rhythm.

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  • practical relationship guidance
  • accessible, hopeful tone

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  • daily-use ideas
  • skill-building over theory

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Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships95%
Divorce & Separation40%
Couples & Family Therapy36%

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Publisher categories

  • Child Abuse
  • Family Conflict Resolution
  • Love & Romance
  • Mental Health
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  • Recovering from Abuse
  • The Pursuit of Happiness
  • Getting Motivated
  • Building Self-Esteem
Authors
Matthew Fray, Rob Shapiro, HarperOne
Publisher
HarperCollins
Published
April 18, 2023
Format
Print & ebook
Reading lane
Child Abuse