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Hold on to Your Kids by Gordon Neufeld

Hold on to Your Kids

Why Parents Need to Matter More Than Peers

Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Maté MD, Gabor Maté

Random House Publishing Group · Print & ebook · August 15, 2006

This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it—now featuring a new chapter WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD • “A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia Children take their lead from their friends: Being “cool” matters more than anything else.

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Who it’s for
A layered argument for keeping the parent-child bond central.
Themes
parenting, child development, peer influence
Pacing
Reflective

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This parenting classic is as relevant today as it was when it was first published, shining a light on one of the most misunderstood trends of our time: how the influence of peers, magnified by social media and video game culture, is replacing parents in the lives of children, and what parents can do about it—now featuring a new chapter WINNER OF THE NATIONAL PARENTING PUBLICATIONS GOLD AWARD • “A worthy book that brings us genuinely new ideas and fresh perspectives on parenting.”—Mary Pipher, Ph.D., author of Reviving Ophelia Children take their lead from their friends: Being “cool” matters more than anything else.

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Shaping values, identity, and codes of behavior, peer groups are often far more influential than parents. But this situation is far from natural, and it can be dangerous—it undermines family cohesion, interferes with healthy development, and fosters a hostile and sexualized youth culture. Children end up becoming conformist, anxious, and alienated. In Hold On to Your Kids, acclaimed physician and bestselling author Gabor Maté joins forces with psychologist Gordon Neufeld to pinpoint the causes of this breakdown and offer practical advice on how to “reattach” to your children and earn back their loyalty and love. By helping to reawaken our instincts, Neufeld and Maté empower parents to be what nature intended: a true source of enrichment, security, and warmth for their children.

Keeping Close

A layered argument for keeping the parent-child bond central.

Come here for

  • parents matter more than peers
  • layered take on kids, school, and growing independence

Expect

  • co-parenting and single-parenting angles
  • Christian framing without a sermon

Where it sits

Family & Relationships93%
Teen Psychology32%
Child Psychology31%

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Publisher categories

  • Friendship
  • Family & Relationships
  • Child Psychology
Authors
Gordon Neufeld, Gabor Maté MD, Gabor Maté
Publisher
Random House Publishing Group
Published
August 15, 2006
Format
Print & ebook
Theme
parenting · child development · peer influence
Reading lane
Friendship