
One Day I'll Grow Up and Be a Beautiful Woman
A Story of Motherhood and Transgender Rights in Rural America
Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group · Print & ebook · November 4, 2025
A fiery, heartbreaking, riveting memoir that follows one New Hampshire family over the course of three years, unspooling a story of gender identity, class, trans youth, and a child caught in the riptide of America’s culture wars "There are so many families who need the righteous fury, compassion, and hope they'll find in this book." —Maggie Smith, New York Times bestselling author of You Could Make This Place Beautiful Abi Maxwell was born and raised in rural New Hampshire, in the small mill town where her family had lived for generations.
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- Who it’s for
- A family memoir joining one child's gender identity with rural life and local conflict.
- Themes
- Gender identity and trans youth, Class and rural America, Community conflict over trans rights
- Genres
- Personal Memoirs, Transgender Studies, Women's Lives
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A fiery, heartbreaking, riveting memoir that follows one New Hampshire family over the course of three years, unspooling a story of gender identity, class, trans youth, and a child caught in the riptide of America’s culture wars "There are so many families who need the righteous fury, compassion, and hope they'll find in this book." —Maggie Smith, New York Times bestselling author of You Could Make This Place Beautiful Abi Maxwell was born and raised in rural New Hampshire, in the small mill town where her family had lived for generations.
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She grew up as one of eight children, and her parents were divorced and skating the edge of poverty. But her childhood was marked by the wonder of the landscape: long afternoons skiing the mountains, a cottage on the lake, accessible by a clunky old boat that broke down every summer. As an adult, Maxwell moves into the ranch house that once belonged to her grandparents, and she and her husband start a family of their own. But when their six-year-old, known to the world as a boy, wears pink sneakers, grows her hair long, and announces that she is a girl, the community turns their back on her, attempting to ban the young child from their bathrooms, their books, their sports teams. Weaving the story of Maxwell's own youth with the story of her fight against the school board, state lawmakers, and her neighbors, she unspools a riveting tale of gender identity, class, and the soul of rural America.
Rural New Hampshire
A family memoir joining one child's gender identity with rural life and local conflict.
Come here for
- A mother’s account of her child’s gender identity
- A portrait of class and rural New Hampshire
Expect
- The author’s childhood alongside her family’s later experience
- Conflict with neighbors, school board, and state lawmakers
Where it sits
| Transgender Studies | 88% |
|---|---|
| Personal Memoirs | 54% |
| Women's Lives | 29% |
Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.
Publisher categories
- Personal Memoirs
- Motherhood
- Transgender Studies
- Authors
- Abi Maxwell
- Publisher
- Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
- Published
- November 4, 2025
- Format
- Print & ebook
- Theme
- Gender identity and trans youth · Class and rural America · Community conflict over trans rights
- Reading lane
- Personal Memoirs