
So Gay for You
Friendship, Found Family, and the Show That Started It All
St. Martin's Press · Print & ebook · June 3, 2025
*AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER* An intimate, hilarious memoir of art, friendship, queerness, and found family by Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, stars of The L Word—including never-before-shared stories and photos from behind the scenes of the show and their personal lives.
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- Who it’s for
- A warm, fan-aware memoir about friendship, belonging, and the show that set a lot in motion.
- Genres
- LGBTQ+ Lives, Lives in Entertainment, Television History & Criticism
- Published
- St. Martin's Press, June 3, 2025
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*AN INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER* An intimate, hilarious memoir of art, friendship, queerness, and found family by Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey, stars of The L Word—including never-before-shared stories and photos from behind the scenes of the show and their personal lives. "Are you comfortable with nudity?" my manager asked. In the early 2000s, Kate Moennig and Leisha Hailey—both young artists trying to figure it all out—met at auditions for an unknown little TV show.
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Given that it was a show about lesbians living in Los Angeles, with the first ever ensemble cast of openly queer female characters, Kate and Leisha knew the project was going to be unlike anything else out there—that is, if it even got picked up. Then, one million people watched the premiere. The show, which came to be called The L Word, turned into a trailblazing phenomenon. Its influence on pop culture, in the political arena, and in the lives of viewers has been lasting, impactful, even life-saving. And in addition to changing the course of television history, The L Word changed Kate and Leisha's lives forever. Suddenly, they were the faces of lesbian culture in a society still hostile to queerness. And one of them wasn't even out yet. Luckily, they had each other. From their first day on set, Kate and Leisha were so inseparable that the cast joked they were like a pair of pants—you couldn't have one leg without the other. Hence the name for their branded partnership and podcast, PANTS, launched in 2020 and downloaded over twenty million times. This friendship has seen Kate and Leisha through their greatest triumphs and most painful moments, stumbling from closeted queer kids to LGBTQ+ activists, actors, podcasters, and business owners. Full of never-before-shared glimpses into the making of The L Word, Kate and Leisha's real-life loves and losses, and their experiences as queer icons, So Gay for You is a heartfelt, inspiring love letter to a ride or die friendship over the decades, and a testament to the liberating power of chosen family.
Why It Clicks
A warm, fan-aware memoir about friendship, belonging, and the show that set a lot in motion.
Come here for
- friendship and found family
- a TV-era queer coming-of-age lens
Expect
- memoir voice with conversation-starting appeal
- queer TV nostalgia, minus the museum glass
Where it sits
| LGBTQ+ Lives | 95% |
|---|---|
| Lives in Entertainment | 59% |
| Television History & Criticism | 33% |
Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.
Publisher categories
- Lives in Entertainment
- LGBTQ+ Lives
- Television Drama
- Authors
- Kate Moennig, Leisha Hailey, Macmillan Audio
- Publisher
- St. Martin's Press
- Published
- June 3, 2025
- Format
- Print & ebook
- Reading lane
- Lives in Entertainment