Hello, Cruel World by Kate Bornstein

Hello, Cruel World

101+ Alternatives to Suicide for Teens, Freaks, and Other Outlaws

Kate Bornstein

Seven Stories Press · Print & ebook · April 29, 2025

This 20th anniversary edition of transsexual trailblazer Kate Bornstein’s unconventional guide to staying alive for teens, freaks and gender outlaws features 20 NEW Alternatives, a new foreword by the author, and a new afterword by Paul Preciado.

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Who it’s for
Humor, tenderness, and unapologetic edge meet in an unconventional guide to staying alive.
Themes
Suicide prevention, Rethinking the gender system, Choosing to embrace life
Genres
Suicide & Prevention (YA), LGBTQ+ for Teens, YA Mental Health

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This 20th anniversary edition of transsexual trailblazer Kate Bornstein’s unconventional guide to staying alive for teens, freaks and gender outlaws features 20 NEW Alternatives, a new foreword by the author, and a new afterword by Paul Preciado.

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"A don't-hurt guide for anyone who's been tempted to give in to despair."—Time Out New York "You'll want to keep extra copies of this one on the shelf to give away to friends in need." —Bitch magazine Now updated and with new material Hello, Cruel World features a catalog of 121 alternatives to suicide that range from the playful (moisturize!), to the irreverent (shatter some family values), to the controversial, fun, challenging and easy. Encouraging readers to unleash their hearts' harmless desires, the book has only one directive: "Don't be mean." It is this guiding principle that brings the reader on a self-validating journey and toward a resounding decision to embrace life. Using graphics and checklists, and with great humor and gutsiness, Kate Bornstein dares readers to re-envision the gender system as we know it. She offers stories and insights that are tenderly intimate and unapologetically edgy. Hello, Cruel World also includes: - an Introduction by Sara Quin of Tegan and Sara - The Hello Cruel Scale of Feelings - an Index of Alternatives with safety and effectiveness scales Suicide rates among LGBTQ+ teens are much higher than for their cis peers; with love and humor and confession and insight, Bornstein hopes to keep every freak out there alive. She is a radical role model, an affectionate best friend, and a guiding mentor all in one. This one-of-a-kind guide to staying alive is a much-needed, sometimes unorthodox approach to life for those who want to stay on the edge, and alive. Finalist, LGBT Nonfiction Lambda Literary Award, 2009 Honor Book, Stonewall Children’s and Young Adult Literature Award, 2009

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Humor, tenderness, and unapologetic edge meet in an unconventional guide to staying alive.

Come here for

  • A catalog of alternatives that ranges from playful to challenging
  • A self-validating approach guided by one simple principle: “Don’t be mean.”

Expect

  • Graphics, checklists, and an index with safety and effectiveness scales
  • Tenderly intimate stories alongside irreverent insights about gender

Where it sits

YA Mental Health74%
Suicide & Prevention (YA)70%
LGBTQ+ for Teens53%

Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.

Publisher categories

  • LGBTQ+ for Teens
  • Depression & Mental Health for Teens
  • Suicide & Prevention (YA)
Authors
Kate Bornstein
Publisher
Seven Stories Press
Published
April 29, 2025
Format
Print & ebook
Theme
Suicide prevention · Rethinking the gender system · Choosing to embrace life
Reading lane
LGBTQ+ for Teens