This American Ex-wife by Lyz Lenz

This American Ex-wife

How I Ended My Marriage and Started My Life

Lyz Lenz, Random House Audio

Crown · Print & ebook · February 18, 2025

NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A deeply validating manifesto on the gender politics of marriage (bad) and divorce (actually pretty good!) in America today, and an argument that the former needs a reboot—from journalist and proud divorcée Lyz Lenz “This American Ex-Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, and a total joy to read.”—Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explain Things to Me AN ELECTRIC LIT BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR Studies show that nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women—women who are tired, fed up, exhausted, and unhappy.

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Who it’s for
A candid, lightly playful take on marriage, divorce, and the life that follows.
Genres
Divorce & Separation, Feminist Theory & Criticism, Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships
Published
Crown, February 18, 2025

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NEW YORK TIMES BESTSELLER • A deeply validating manifesto on the gender politics of marriage (bad) and divorce (actually pretty good!)

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in America today, and an argument that the former needs a reboot—from journalist and proud divorcée Lyz Lenz “This American Ex-Wife is a bomb, a bouquet (but not a wedding bouquet), a memoir, a manifesto, and a total joy to read.”—Rebecca Solnit, author of Men Explain Things to Me AN ELECTRIC LIT BEST BOOK OF THE YEAR Studies show that nearly 70 percent of divorces are initiated by women—women who are tired, fed up, exhausted, and unhappy. We’ve all seen how the media portrays divorcées: sad, lonely, drowning their sorrows in a bottle of wine. Lyz Lenz is one such woman whose life fell apart after she reached a breaking point in her twelve-year marriage. But she refused to take part in that tired narrative and decided to flip the script on divorce. In this exuberant and unapologetic book, Lenz makes an argument for the advantages of getting divorced, framing it as a practical and effective solution for women to take back the power they are owed. Weaving reportage with sociological research and literature with popular culture along with personal stories of coming together and breaking up, Lenz creates a kaleidoscopic and poignant portrait of American marriage today. She argues that the mechanisms of American power, justice, love, and gender equality remain deeply flawed, and that marriage, like any other cultural institution, is due for a reckoning. A raucous argument for acceptance, solidarity, and collective female refusal, This American Ex-Wife takes readers on a riveting ride—while pointing us all toward a life that is a little more free.

Why It Clicks

A candid, lightly playful take on marriage, divorce, and the life that follows.

Come here for

  • smart, book-club-friendly candor
  • playful, layered reflection on marriage and reinvention

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  • memoir-forward intimacy
  • conversation-ready insights

Where it sits

Divorce & Separation86%
Feminist Theory & Criticism38%
Marriage & Long-Term Partnerships29%

Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.

Publisher categories

  • Personal Memoirs
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Gender Studies
Authors
Lyz Lenz, Random House Audio
Publisher
Crown
Published
February 18, 2025
Format
Print & ebook
Reading lane
Personal Memoirs