My Year of Really Bad Dates by Rachel Lithgow

My Year of Really Bad Dates

A Memoir

Rachel Lithgow

She Writes Press · Print & ebook · November 11, 2025

For anyone who’s ever gone on terrible date, a vulnerable memoir that explores dating in midlife after divorce, with bad dates—from terrible one-night stands to promising matches who ultimately disappoint—anchoring the theme of every chapter.

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Who it’s for
A darkly funny, vulnerable memoir finds room for hope amid midlife dating, grief, and hard-won change.
Genres
Personal Memoirs, Divorce & Separation, Men, Women & Relationships
Published
She Writes Press, November 11, 2025

About this book

For anyone who’s ever gone on terrible date, a vulnerable memoir that explores dating in midlife after divorce, with bad dates—from terrible one-night stands to promising matches who ultimately disappoint—anchoring the theme of every chapter.

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After two life-shaking events—losing her father and divorcing the man she’s spent half her life with, who happens to be an actor from a famous family—Rachel Lithgow leaves a thirty-year career to write full time and pursue a relationship with a calming, delightful man she recently met online. She thinks she has it all figured out . . . until he announces he’s joining a cult and moving to Phoenix with a blonde real estate agent. Through a year of terrible dates, peppered with a few great experiences and a lot of pinot noir, the author learns that patterns can be changed, that asking for help is sometimes necessary, and that there’s only one way to repair her brokenness: by facing her trauma and demons head-on. With a unique mix of humor, self-deprecation, and gritty vulnerability, this dark yet hopeful memoir tackles divorce, dating, single motherhood, PTSD, grief, loss, and starting over in midlife. From emotional rock bottom to a peaceful acceptance of the woman she truly is, Lithgow finds the humor in the blackness, redemption in the pathos, and fulfillment in the idea that “happily ever after” isn’t always a storybook ending—and doesn’t need to be.

Hope After Heartbreak

A darkly funny, vulnerable memoir finds room for hope amid midlife dating, grief, and hard-won change.

Come here for

  • Dating disasters met with humor and self-deprecation
  • A candid account of grief, divorce, and starting over

Expect

  • Bad dates alongside a few genuinely good experiences
  • Unvarnished reflections on trauma, single motherhood, and self-acceptance

Where it sits

Personal Memoirs93%
Divorce & Separation64%
Men, Women & Relationships51%

Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.

Publisher categories

  • Personal Memoirs
  • Divorce & Separation
  • Men, Women & Relationships
Authors
Rachel Lithgow
Publisher
She Writes Press
Published
November 11, 2025
Format
Print & ebook
Reading lane
Personal Memoirs