
My Year of Really Bad Dates
A Memoir
She Writes Press · Print & ebook · November 11, 2025
For anyone who’s ever gone on terrible date, a vulnerable memoir that explores dating in midlife after divorce, with bad dates—from terrible one-night stands to promising matches who ultimately disappoint—anchoring the theme of every chapter.
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- Who it’s for
- A darkly funny, vulnerable memoir finds room for hope amid midlife dating, grief, and hard-won change.
- Genres
- Personal Memoirs, Divorce & Separation, Men, Women & Relationships
- Published
- She Writes Press, November 11, 2025
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For anyone who’s ever gone on terrible date, a vulnerable memoir that explores dating in midlife after divorce, with bad dates—from terrible one-night stands to promising matches who ultimately disappoint—anchoring the theme of every chapter.
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After two life-shaking events—losing her father and divorcing the man she’s spent half her life with, who happens to be an actor from a famous family—Rachel Lithgow leaves a thirty-year career to write full time and pursue a relationship with a calming, delightful man she recently met online. She thinks she has it all figured out . . . until he announces he’s joining a cult and moving to Phoenix with a blonde real estate agent. Through a year of terrible dates, peppered with a few great experiences and a lot of pinot noir, the author learns that patterns can be changed, that asking for help is sometimes necessary, and that there’s only one way to repair her brokenness: by facing her trauma and demons head-on. With a unique mix of humor, self-deprecation, and gritty vulnerability, this dark yet hopeful memoir tackles divorce, dating, single motherhood, PTSD, grief, loss, and starting over in midlife. From emotional rock bottom to a peaceful acceptance of the woman she truly is, Lithgow finds the humor in the blackness, redemption in the pathos, and fulfillment in the idea that “happily ever after” isn’t always a storybook ending—and doesn’t need to be.
Hope After Heartbreak
A darkly funny, vulnerable memoir finds room for hope amid midlife dating, grief, and hard-won change.
Come here for
- Dating disasters met with humor and self-deprecation
- A candid account of grief, divorce, and starting over
Expect
- Bad dates alongside a few genuinely good experiences
- Unvarnished reflections on trauma, single motherhood, and self-acceptance
Where it sits
| Personal Memoirs | 93% |
|---|---|
| Divorce & Separation | 64% |
| Men, Women & Relationships | 51% |
Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.
Publisher categories
- Personal Memoirs
- Divorce & Separation
- Men, Women & Relationships
- Authors
- Rachel Lithgow
- Publisher
- She Writes Press
- Published
- November 11, 2025
- Format
- Print & ebook
- Reading lane
- Personal Memoirs