"you Should Be Grateful"
Stories of Race, Identity, and Transracial Adoption
Beacon Press · Print & ebook · January 30, 2024
An adoption expert and transracial adoptee herself examines the unique perspectives and challenges these adoptees have as they navigate multiple cultures “Your parents are so amazing for adopting you!
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- Who it’s for
- Angela Tucker brings adoptees’ perspectives to the layered realities of race, family, love, and belonging.
- Themes
- Transracial adoption, Racism and classism, Family, love, and belonging
- Genres
- Adoption & Fostering, Race & Ethnic Relations, Black & African American Lives
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An adoption expert and transracial adoptee herself examines the unique perspectives and challenges these adoptees have as they navigate multiple cultures “Your parents are so amazing for adopting you! You should be grateful that you were adopted.” Angela Tucker is a Black woman, adopted from foster care by white parents. She has heard this microaggression her entire life, usually from well-intentioned strangers who view her adoptive parents as noble saviors.
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She is grateful for many aspects of her life, but being transracially adopted involves layers of rejection, loss, and complexity that cannot be summed up so easily. In “You Should Be Grateful,” Tucker centers the experiences of adoptees to share deeply personal stories, well-researched history, and engrossing anecdotes from mentorship sessions with adopted youth. These perspectives challenge the fairy-tale narrative of adoption, giving way to a fuller story that explores the impacts of racism, classism, family, love, and belonging.
Beyond the Fairy Tale
Angela Tucker brings adoptees’ perspectives to the layered realities of race, family, love, and belonging.
Come here for
- Personal stories alongside history and mentorship-session anecdotes
- A fuller account of transracial adoption beyond familiar assumptions
Expect
- A candid look at rejection, loss, racism, and classism
- Adoptee experiences centered in a nuanced, accessible narrative
Where it sits
| Adoption & Fostering | 100% |
|---|---|
| Black & African American Lives | 65% |
| Race & Ethnic Relations | 64% |
Percentages are BookFrontier’s reading of the book.
Publisher categories
- Black & African American Lives
- Adoption & Fostering
- Race & Ethnic Relations
- Authors
- Angela Tucker
- Publisher
- Beacon Press
- Published
- January 30, 2024
- Format
- Print & ebook
- Theme
- Transracial adoption · Racism and classism · Family, love, and belonging
- Reading lane
- Black & African American Lives