Love in a F*cked-up World
How to Build Relationships, Hook Up, and Raise Hell Together
Little, Brown and Company · Print & ebook · January 14, 2025
In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see—both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections.
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- Who it’s for
- Accessible, practical thinking about relationships, desire, and how to live them less badly.
- Genres
- LGBTQ+ Relationships, Gender & Sexuality, Transgender Studies
- Published
- Little, Brown and Company, January 14, 2025
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In this inspiring self-help handbook, a trans activist dares us to be the change we want to see—both out in the world, and amongst our closest connections. Lifelong activist and educator Dean Spade dares us to decide that our interpersonal actions are not separate from our politics of liberation and resistance.
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Many activist projects and resistance groups fall apart because people treat each other poorly, trying desperately to live out the cultural myths about dating and relationships that we are fed from an early age. How do we divest from the idea that one romantic partner will be the solution to all our problems? How do we bring our best thinking about freedom and justice into step with our desires for healing and connection? Love in a F*cked-Up World is a resounding call to action and a practical manifesto for how to combat cultural scripts and take our relationships into our own hands, preparing us for the work of changing the world.
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Accessible, practical thinking about relationships, desire, and how to live them less badly.
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- plainspoken relationship guidance
- queer/trans social theory in toolkit form
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- identity and worldview sharpening
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| Gender & Sexuality | 58% |
|---|---|
| LGBTQ+ Relationships | 46% |
| Transgender Studies | 27% |
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- Authors
- Dean Spade, Algonquin Books
- Publisher
- Little, Brown and Company
- Published
- January 14, 2025
- Format
- Print & ebook
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